Talking about stuff I should know by now.

i sometimes get the most random thoughts. sometimes it’s inspired by something random on “oprah”.

this one was because oprah and halle berry were talking about spiritual unions and commitments instead of the “institution” of marriage.

where did the “institution” of marriage originate? i mean, i’m pretty much thinking adam and eve didn’t get “married”, yet God recognized them as husband and wife. or did he? and did it even matter?

according to thehistoryof.net, wedding ceremonies didn’t start until ancient egypt, when pharoahs took hundreds of wives, including sisters and cousins and daughters as some of their many wives (and/or concubines). my guess is that, even though they were “married” by ceremony, that God probably wasn’t too pleased with the whole 700 wives and 300 concubines type of lifestyle.

which all makes me wonder…

1. when does God actually consider a couple married? when they make the commitment (ie engagement/betrothal)? when they consummate (which then raises the how many spouses do some people, with multiple partners have, and does that matter and if so how?)? do we really think God needs a church ritual or man-made government piece of paper to recognize a couple as married?

2. if God looks at marriage differently than we do (which lets face it, is probable), then perhaps divorce is more painful to him (on our behalf) not so much b/c of the legal mess it causes for us and the pains that come from us, but b/c he sees it as the separating of a union.

3. or perhaps God said sex was better saved for 1 lifetime partner b/c he views sex as what means “we’re married”.

4. and if any/all of the above are true, and the whole government recognition/ceremony is purely for human’s “enjoyment” or recognition, then, forgetting whatever moral or religious objections you have (because for the purpose of this argument they’re completely irrelevant), then what’s wrong with 2 men or 2 women marrying? if all it is is government recognition? if God looks at it differently, than regardless of yours or my beliefs, a ceremony and piece of paper is just that - a ceremony and piece of paper. which then leads to the whole point that they DO deserve “certain and inalienable rights” as human beings, which the piece of paper and government recognition would provide them, right?

and not to mention until heterosexuals get their act together and can lower their divorce rate below say, 55%, i really think we have no freakin room to talk.

and if God recognizes couples as married by a spiritual or physical union instead of a human, man-made ceremony, then why should we judge people who live together in a “common law” marriage-type of long-term, monogamous relationship?